Reality check: are you dating a loser?

I apparently attract losers, or who some people call "emotionally unavailable men."

Here are some tell-tale signs of an emotionally unavailable man:

• He’s quick out the gate in pursuing you, gets your attention, and then goes into a slow canter


• He’s very reliant on text messages, IMing and email for the majority of his contact


• He's ambiguous about the status of the relationship


• You’re not sure when you’ll hear from him next, even though you’ve been dating him for awhile


• You think you’re in a relationship, but it’s closer to a booty call


• When you try to tackle the status of your relationship or any issues, he either tells you what you want to hear and then returns to his normal behavior or he just skirts the issue. One way or the other, you wind up back at square one.


• He talks about his problems, his successes, his life – it’s me, me, me all the way


• He determines the momentum of the relationship – you meet up when he wants to meet up


• He’s one big walking excuse.

Signs of a good man

• He doesn't say good bye with out asking when he can see you again.


• He uses "future talk" and you are included in it.


• He tells you about his day and asks about yours; you can tell he's listening because he adds a "I hate when that happens" story that relates to your day!


• You know where he lives, not a general idea, you have the physical address.


• He doesn't cancel on you - EVER.


• When he calls you are happy, not relieved.


• When you are with him you feel special and have his full attention.


• He doesn't comment on other women when you are with him or check them out.


• He's there for you on a date and you can tell.

So, as someone who has dated many emotionally unavailable men, just stay away - they are not worth your time or your trouble!!

Surprise! We're taking your money

I just received a letter from Citibank (my student loan lender) saying my loan was approved. Great! Wait a minute... what is this origination fee? I checked the letter last year and there were no origination fees. I called these bozos up and apparently because of something our lovely government instated, not many banks are covering the origination fees anymore. (I had to ask for a manager to get straight answers, by the way. I could barely understand the first guy because it sounded like he was talking with marbles in his mouth.) The BEST part is I was not notified and so they just took my money without telling me. Yippee! I'm glad I wasn't counting on that extra $$. Oh, and they won't consolidate my loans either. However, I just Googled consolidation and the government will do it for me. So, six months after I graduate I can say buh-bye to Citibank. It sucks to be a poor student these days.