Some advice about listening to other people's negative comments

I wish I could remember this advice more than I do. I often take people's opinions too seriously. Here's a snippet from "Do You Make These 5 Mistakes When You Try to Take Action?"

3. Listen too intently to other people’s negative opinions.

I’ve mentioned this several times before. What people say about the world and about you might not be so much about you or the world you live in. It is often just about how the person that said it feels about him/herself and is projecting that on to his or her surroundings. If they are sharing negativity then that is more of reflection of them then of some certain reality.

Of course, there can be valid criticism of you or of some idea you might have. But on the other hand, a lot of negative opinions is based in how the one criticising sees the world, how he or she might want to be right in a conversation, how it is a way to strengthen his or her view of reality and to create a sense of security and feeling that everything is as it has always been.

I think you should listen to the opinions of people. Especially people who have gone where you want to go. But in the end try and make up your own mind as much as you can. And just try things out, experiment and see what works instead of listening too much to other people’s predictions.